How do you know when you're in a one-sided relationship?

And what do you do to create a mutual one? 

Well, unfortunately, it's really annoying, and it's actually really easy to spot. Once you are out of that one sided relationship, about three to nine months later, you'll wonder, how did I stay there for so long. You might ask, what's wrong with me. Here is the thing. There is nothing wrong with you. 

Most of us haven't been taught or modeled what a mutual, reciprocal, transparent, gifting and receiving relationship looks like. 

Sometimes people are absorbed in their own life and everything about them and their problems. Maybe you find yourself the one doing more of the work, the kids, managing the money, the house, basically everything and the other person in the relationship is just sitting on the couch doing nothing. 

They say they are going to do something, but they never choose. That's a one sided relationship. If you're the one that's choosing all the time and the other person is dead weight, you have to look at that. 

This doesn't mean you should criticize that other person. 

There are some people who like to kick back and do all of the receiving and not the giving. You have to make your choice, for you. What works for you. 

Here's the trick, if you're in a one sided relationship, you can't expect anybody else to change, you have to change. You have set the boundaries. Speak up and say what's true for you. Say what your non negotiables are. 

I want to get across to you, you are responsible for creating your life. Sometimes it means separating, ending, closing a door and moving on. And sometimes that means staying, presenting the possibilities and moving forward. And sometimes it's a little bit of both.

There is no right or wrong. 

There is, are you happy? 

Do you feel good? 

Are you living the way that you know is possible to live?

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